Life - It's not like the brochure...
Calamity hasn't called the girls at all yet this week. Not a dickie bird of a phone call. Weird I think, but what do I know. The girls haven't asked about her either.
They both had counseling Tuesday. Counselor wants me to work on feelings with them still. She also explained how 1/2 Pint was affected by some of the incidents surrounding her visits when she still went to Calamity's house. She explained that when a crises or chaos ensued, which it usually did, chaos surrounds Calamity's life...1/2 Pint did not process and close from the chaos, that she stayed constantly in a state of high anxiety because of the chaos. It was quite technical, but she explained that normally, a mother (or in my case, grandmother) will say, (and I do this often...) ”honey, this is crazy, or this is sad, or this is whatever it is at the time, but it's okay, It's going to stop and it's going to be okay in a few. Or, people have bad things happen sometimes, we will be fine, MeeMaw will work through this and we will get through it together. She said Calamity never did any of that when there was chaos present, and so 1/2 Pint, who was still wee little, like um, last year at age 4, then did NOT come out of the anxiety state because Calamity didn't do any closure to the events.
We will have 3/4 Pint all weekend. Nursey and Cop are going through a separation, looks like divorce. Sigh. Just another monkey wrench thrown into the mix I guess. Nursey is moving to Pittsburgh into a house that a friend of mine has sitting vacant, and trying to get 3/4 Pint into a private school. I have to pick 3/4 Pint up tomorrow after school and take her to her counselor then bring her out here for the weekend.
I am in a pretty anxious state myself. Go figure LOL. Still, I am 52 and can deal with it so that's okay. I think I will go stack the firewood. Physical labor helps a lot. The girls have girl scouts this afternoon so don't get picked up till five at the school. DH went into town to run errands so it's just me and the dog.
posted by: mimi (reply)
post date: 01.10.08 (12:58 pm)
boy, for a new year, there sure is a lot of weird stuff going on...maybe it is just the moon! i hope so, for all of our sakes! xoxox
posted by: auntconi (reply)
post date: 01.10.08 (5:40 pm)
Oh wow ~ does it ever let up?
Will keep you and yours in thought and prayer!
posted by: FinalyFree (reply)
post date: 01.11.08 (9:49 pm)
Geez Louise! I too will be praying for you and the rest of the gang. Surely to goodness things will settle down soon.
posted by: LadyG (reply)
post date: 01.14.08 (10:19 pm)
Will keep you in my prayers.
posted by: PastorDave (reply)
post date: 01.19.08 (8:00 am)
So sorry about the pending divorce of your daughter. My initial reaction is that it is terribly unfair to the children. But, I don't know how bad and even dangerous may be the relationship. I've evolved in my thinking about divorce. I still believe it results from sin, and is not the ideal will of God. Sometimes, though, it becomes the best choice. And I do believe you and your husband are so very good for those children. Keep it up.
Stacking firewood? Just turn up the heat.
posted by: PastorDave (reply)
post date: 01.19.08 (8:01 am)
Reply to: LadyG
You know, a person could develop a pretty good prayer list from all the things going on around here on t-Blog. I'm glad you are praying!
posted by: fractalmom (reply)
post date: 01.19.08 (3:14 pm)
Reply to: mimi
much weird stuff. i hate weird LOL
posted by: fractalmom (reply)
post date: 01.19.08 (3:15 pm)
Reply to: auntconi
thank you very much. i need all the prayers i can get :::smile:::
posted by: fractalmom (reply)
post date: 01.19.08 (3:15 pm)
Reply to: FinalyFree
one would certainly hope so, but one would be wrong...
posted by: fractalmom (reply)
post date: 01.19.08 (3:16 pm)
Reply to: joliefille
LOL. in fact, that is exactly what I did....and it was very nice
posted by: fractalmom (reply)
post date: 01.19.08 (3:18 pm)
Reply to: LadyG
thank you. i do need lots and lots of prayers. they help so much. and especially to know that the people who are praying for me and mine are taking time out of their hectic and sometimes just as crazy life to pray for me helps in and of itself....does that make ANY sense at all? LOL
posted by: fractalmom (reply)
post date: 01.19.08 (3:22 pm)
Reply to: PastorDave
my first initial thought was "grow up". and i haven't really changed my mind about it LOL. unfortunately, they are both in their 30's and very much into themselves...
i think they will separate, then perhaps divorce. sad. he has anger issues, she has walls up and shuts people out. the more she shuts him out, the angrier he gets, the angrier he gets, the more she shuts him out.
really sad. and like you said, the children pay the price.
to me, if the marriage wasn't worth working out, it shouldn't have been entered into in the first place, but what do i know. even though they had to go to premarriage counseling which was required by our priest, as by many churches today, they were in love and everything was hunky dory back then. now, two years down the road, it is too easy to just throw it all away.
really sad.
ps. if i turn up the heat, it costs more than the firewood. propane is 2.65 a gallon. firewood is 125 a cord. cheaper to burn firewood than turn up the heat LOL.
